American chicks know how to give and get toe-curling thrills in bed, but there are still a few frisky things we could learn from booty-lovin' babes abroad. With the help of some of the top cross-cultural sex experts, i've rounded up the steamiest secrets on earth. Dig in to snag the confidence and hot bedroom habits of foreign bombshells.
1) Stretch Out Foreplay
Always rushing through the arousal stages of sex is a shagging shame. "In many cultures, seduction begins long before a couple gets to the bedroom," says Amy Sueyoshi, PhD, assistant professor of human sexuality and ethnic studies at San Francisco State University. "The mere knowledge that a sexual encounter is about to happen can be a huge turn-on." So take a cue from Korean women: "Before the sex act even begins, our readers will blindfold their boyfriends with scarves and then tantalize them by slowly dragging silk over their bodies from head to toe, lingering extra long around his pelvis area," says Kyung-Hae Yoon, editor of Cosmo in Korea. Kick this move up a notch by sliding the silk back and forth under his testicles while he's standing, and he'll be seeing stars. Extending the amount of fun you have before actual intercourse makes sex feel more like an all-night party than a flash in the pan, which is exactly why India's famous Kama Sutra has entire chapters devoted to kissing, caressing, and oral sex. Another thing to keep in mind: There's no rule that says you can't have an orgasm during foreplay. "Whether it's done manually or orally, women should encourage men to take them all the way before intercourse even begins," says Sueyoshi. Have your guy stimulate your G-spot by inserting his finger into your vagina and applying pulsing pressure to the front (belly side) wall while he rhythmically strokes your clitoris with his tongue.
Bonus: Intercourse after having an orgasm can be incredibly intense because your hot spots are already sensitized.
2) Be Just as Gung Ho for Sex as a Guy
Doing-it divas in countries like Australia, Israel and South Africa aren't afraid to turn the tables when it comes to traditional sex roles. "Aussie women don't get hung up on what's considered 'feminine' or not — they generally have no problem initiating sex with a man they're attracted to," says Gabrielle Morrissey, PhD, an Australian sex expert and author of Urge: Hot Secrets for Great Sex. Clearly, patience is not a virtue when getting it on Down Under: According to a survey in Australian Cosmo, 38 percent of readers have gotten it on with a guy within 24 hours of meeting him. Israeli and South African women are just as likely to go after what they want. "In Israel, women join the army at the age of 18, and their fast, high-adrenaline lifestyle spills over into their sex lives," says Lea Kantor-Matarrasso, the editor of Israeli Cosmo. There's no doubt that instant gratification can sometimes be the best kind, so attack your boyfriend (or newly acquired boy toy) the very second you get the urge. Pin him against the wall with one hand (holding his hands over his head) and press your breasts and hips against him hard while unbuckling his pants with the other. Once his member jumps to attention, pull him down onto the floor on top of you. "It's a myth that whoever is on top is always in control," says Morrissey. "By thrusting your hips up and down, placing your hands on his butt, pulling him into you and kissing him hard, you can direct the action." That's not to say you shouldn't go for a ride. Try pushing him onto a chair, unzipping his pants, going down on him for a few seconds, then climbing on. He won't know what hit him, but he'll be happy as hell. For the ultimate in rough 'n' ready fun, try one of South African Cosmo readers' favorite bed games, called the Randy Wrestling Roll. Start by lying on your side facing each other, with your thigh flung over his hip, and guide his penis inside you, then entangle your arms and legs and start rolling around on the bed or carpet as you thrust into each other. The goal? See who can end up on top most often — but in this game, everybody wins.
3)Go for Your Pleasure in the Sack
Maybe we could all use a quick trip to Paris to give our sexual egos a boost. According to Sylvie Overnoy, the editor of French Cosmo, women in France are anything but shy when it comes to making demands in bed. "The attitudes of French women regarding sex are, one, speak your mind and, two, do anything you please," says Overnoy. Having sex exactly when and how you want is all the rage for Hungarian babes as well, who do the deed more often than the women of any other country — 152 times per year, according to the 2003 Durex Global Sex Survey. Considering that Americans are hitting the sheets 118 times per year on average according to the Durex survey, there must be something Hungarians know that we don't. "The secret may be that Hungarian women won't let much of anything get in the way of having a good time in bed," says Hungarian Cosmo's editor, Anita Pocsik. "In some countries, having sex during your period may be taboo, but here, girls just throw down a red towel on the bed and it's business as usual." Hungarian chicks aren't afraid to ask for what they want either. "Hungarian women have no qualms about giving sexual instructions," says Sandor Gardos, PhD, a sexologist of Hungarian descent and founder of Mypleasure.com. "They know it doesn't have to be a long, drawn-out discussion — all you have to do is take the guy's hand and move it where you want it or whisper a few specific commands." So the next time you're getting it on, moan the words "faster," "slower," "harder," or "softer." Or if you're already a vocal vixen, get on top and show him with his middle and ring fingers (his index finger won't feel as gentle) exactly how you want your clitoris to be touched. Don't be shy about getting specific and telling him precisely how much pressure you want from his tongue during oral sex, for example. "In several different studies, men have reported that the single most exhilarating moment of sex for them is when the woman they're with has an orgasm," says Gardos. "So the ironic thing about being selfish in bed is that you end up not being selfish at all."
4) Push Your Booty Boundaries
Even if you can already think of a hundred ways to get turned on, why stop there? Italians, for one, are fabulous at finding new venues to stage steamy sessions. "Most of our readers live with their parents until well into their 30s, so finding places to have sex outside the house is a serious necessity," says Cinzia Felicetti, the editor of Italian Cosmo. In the Euro RSCG Love and Lust 2002 Survey, 88 percent of sexually driven Italians confessed to doing it in a car, and 16 percent have gotten busy on a plane or train. But you don't have to do it in the air, on the rail, or in a public parking lot to have wild sex. You can steam things up at home by moving outside the bedroom and doing it on top of a sturdy table, kitchen counter, bathroom sink, or hood of a car that's parked in your garage. Things get even hotter in Greece, where they boldly go where most cultures are too shy to venture. "Both men and women here enjoy anal sex, and no one considers it a big deal," says deputy editor of Greek Cosmo, Margarita Michelakou. Like bringing sex toys to bed or using flavored lubes, anal sex is just another option for spicing things up. For a more sedate version of bottoms-up fun, try gentle pressure on the anus, which can feel wonderfully intense because that area is so packed with sensitive nerve endings. To silently get the signal across that you're interested in going there, try massaging the outside of your own back door while doing it doggie-style so that he has a clear view of the action (his eyes will probably pop out of his head). Or just grab your own cheeks and pull them gently apart, helping him to penetrate you deeper vaginally. Yet another often ignored erogenous zone is the female perineum. While you probably already know that pressing on the male perineum (the area between his testicles and anus) feels amazing for men, you might not know that the same spot on your bod can be pleasurably potent. Ask your guy to either lick you there or rub that area with his fingers the next time his head is nestled between your thighs.
5)Have a Secret Sex Life
No, we don't mean cheating on your main squeeze. This is about
discovering the booty benefits of dirty daydreaming and solo sex.
According to the Penguin Atlas of Human Sexual Behavior, only 19 percent
of U.S. women think about sex one or more times a day. And according to
the text Sex in America: A Definitive Survey, almost 60 percent of U.S.
women never masturbate. Yikes, looks like many of us could use a libido
intervention, so let Brazilian and Spanish babes be your inspiration.
"Young women in Brazil frequently plan parties with their friends where a
sex coach teaches them new ways to please themselves and their partners
and gives them tips on how to perform stripteases and use vibrators,"
reports Cynthia Greiner, the editor of Brazilian Cosmo. Another path to a
secret sex life is pure fantasy, says Sarah Glattstein Franco, the
editor of Spanish Cosmo. "Forty-eight percent of our readers use
fantasies to reach orgasm both while masturbating and while having sex."
6) The real shocker: Sixty percent of Spanish men and women say that the
star of their sexual fantasies is their current partner. Simply letting
your mind wander to the sexiest experience you can remember having with
your beau is an easy way to get so turned on that you can't wait to
have sex again. Or why wait at all? While picturing a sexy scenario,
caress your breasts until your nipples are hard, stroke your stomach and
upper thighs until you feel yourself getting wet, then slide your
fingers between your vaginal lips and spread the wetness upward toward
your clitoris. How fast and hard you rub is up to you. Be willing to try
different strokes and pressures and go with what feels best. And get
creative. Try doing it standing up and leaning against a wall or with
one foot up on a chair while you watch yourself in the mirror. Once you
see just how insanely sexy you look touching yourself, you may be
confident enough to let your very lucky man look on while you do it.
Just don't forget to peel him off the ceiling when you're done.
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