Ever wonder how your sexual experiences stack up against the average woman’s? We made a list of 30 sex moves, acts, and games you should try (or at least consider) by the time you’re 30. Looking for something a little less racy? Check out Glamour’s new book, 30 Things Every Woman Should Know by the Time She’s 30.
1) Have Sex in a Taboo Place
“Whether it’s in your old bedroom at your parents’ house or on your guy’s desk after office hours, pick a place that makes you feel extra naughty for doing it there,” says sex expert Lora Somoza.
2) Know How to Give Yourself an Orgasm
The easier it is for you to bring yourself to the edge, the better your success will be with a partner.
3)Role-Play
“I know it’s cheesy, but a boyfriend and I used to pretend I was Little Red Riding Hood and he was the Big Bad Wolf. It was so hot,” says Gina, 28. More ideas: You’re an actress desperate for a part in his big-budget film. Or, he’s the sexy stranger sitting next to you at the airport bar.
4)Have a Totally Meaningless Hookup
Forget living happily ever after. Sometimes a girl just needs a guy to get busy with. No small talk—heck, you don’t even have to exchange numbers. Just pick the hottest guy at the bar and have as much fun as you want.
5) Explore Your Back Door
With the right guy and a lot of lube, you’d be surprised at how much your thoughts about anal sex might change. Or how the feeling of a finger (or his tongue) nearby can make other acts all the more appealing.
6)Explore His Back Door
Using your fingers anywhere near there will make anything else you do feel 10 times better for him. Try it in the shower if one of you feels shy.
7)Watch Porn
It has to be said, so we’re saying it: Plenty of women like porn too. Watch it while you masturbate for a little extra inspiration. The bonus? “It’ll give you some ideas you may want to try with your guy later on,” says Samoza. Or try watching it together; it’ll put you both in the mood.
8 Tell Him Exactly How to Please You
“Guys aren’t psychic,” Samoza reminds us. If you want him to move his tongue faster, a little to the left, or to keep doing what he’s doing, just tell him. Trust us, he wants your help.
9 Bond Over Bondage
What can some restraints or handcuffs do for your sex life? A lot, says Samoza. “Allowing your partner to enjoy your body while all you have to do is lie back and experience pleasure can be an incredible experience.” Not to mention that letting someone take complete control actually builds trust and can benefit your relationship.
10 Have a Quickie
Rush home during your lunch hour and have your man meet you. Get naked, get it on, get back to work. We can pretty much guarantee you’ll both be dying to return home and do it again at the end of the day.
11 Date Outside Your Age Range
“Wouldn’t you like to see what a man with, say, 10 more years of sexual experience than you is like in bed?” asks Samoza. Don’t be afraid to find out.
12 Watch Each Other Masturbate
Aside from the obvious turn-on for him (“Men love to watch women touch themselves,” Samoza says), watching him masturbate can be a valuable learning experience for you. See what type of touch, grip, and speed makes him climax—you can apply the info later.
13) Send Him a Sexy Photo
No, you don’t have to be naked. In fact, a sexy outfit (that shows a lot of skin) can be just as good. If he doesn’t respond with some combination of the words OMG, Damn, and Now, find someone more appreciative ASAP.
14) Initiate Sex
Who says men are the natural aggressors? If you want someone (whether it’s a guy you’ve been on five dates with who has yet to invite you upstairs, or your boyfriend of a year who looks fine as hell in his boxers and T-shirt), just grab him and start the action yourself
15 Get It On in a Car
In case you missed out in high school (when bedroom doors had to stay open), hooking up in a car can make you feel like a teenager again. Ask your guy to pull over into an empty parking lot, or challenge him to find the most deserted spot he can before you jump into the backseat together.
16 Have Sex Outside
“You’re out there in the forest, desert, or wherever it may be and suddenly you get an incredible rush because it’s just the two of you and Mother Nature,” says sex expert Tracey Cox.
17 ave Sex With Someone Who Worships Your Body
“I dated this one guy who kept telling me what an amazing body I had and couldn’t keep his hands off of me,” says Ashley, 31. “At first I thought he was crazy—hello, I have tons of cellulite—but then it kind of stuck, and I just felt amazing with him.” Every woman should feel that way.
18 Get Busy With a Guy With an Accent
You have no clue what the hell he’s saying, but as long as he keeps saying it, you’re totally cool with it. Hook up with a sexy foreigner and find out if what his tongue does to those sexy syllables translates below the belt.
19 Have Silent Sex
“One of my exes had a roommate, and we had to stay really quiet when he was home,” says Erin, 28. “It ended up making things so hot to have to hold in our moans and noises.”
20 Know How to Give a Great Blow Job
No matter how good you are in bed, giving a great BJ is what legends are really made of. Practice makes perfect, but comparing notes with friends or reading some of these blow job tips can speed up the process.
21 Fantasize He’s Someone Else
His best friend? Your ex? Ryan Gosling? Feel free to imagine that you’re sleeping with a fantasy man once in a while.
Photo Credit: Gosling: Fairchild Archive
22 Give Him a Lap Dance
Percentage of men who won’t be extremely excited by this: 0.
3 Use a Sex Toy Together
Many women do not climax from intercourse alone, Samoza reminds us. So don’t be afraid to bring your vibrator to bed. An orgasm is an orgasm however you get there—but combining your guy with some extra battery power can make it much more intense for both of you.
24 Have a Threesome
We’re not saying these are for everyone, but if you’re into the idea, and find two willing participants, then you go, girl.
25 Book a Couples Massage
There’s nothing like being naked in a dimly lit room and totally relaxed to set the stage for some sexy time. A couples massage is the best foreplay you ever spent disposable income on.
26 Show Up Wearing Only Lingerie
Wear your sexiest lingerie (a garter belt, heels, and thigh-highs work nicely) under a trench coat and head to your guy’s place to surprise him
27 Hook Up With a Guy You Think Is Crazy-Hot
Sometimes we choose a guy for his brains, humor, or nice personality. But at least once, sleep with someone you think is so hot your clothes practically melt off your body whenever you see him.
28 Have Middle-of-the-Night Sex
“When you wake up horny in the middle of the night to have sex and then go back to sleep, the next day it feels like a dream,” says Keri, 29.
29 Talk Dirty
If you were totally comfortable with your guy and totally turned on during sex, what would you say? If only once, force yourself to let go and let the four-letter words fly.
30 Make Love
Yep, we said it. Have crazy-romantic sex (think slow, passionate, constant eye contact) with someone you’re head over heels for.
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