A guy says a silent thank-you whenever you're lavishing attention on him in bed. But have you ever wondered which of your moves he loves most? That's a cinch if you know whether his dominant sense is sight, sound, or touch. (Only a handful of guys' dominant senses are smell or taste.)
Although we get a rush from all of our senses, experts tell us that we usually favor one over the others — and the key way to pinpoint your guy's biggest turn-ons is to zero in on his dominant sense. This study of the senses is called Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP, and, reports Rachel Hott, PhD, cofounder of the NLP Center of New York, "If you customize your bedroom moves to your partner's dominant sense, you'll maximize his pleasure."
Need help figuring out if your guy is a sight lover, a sound hound, or a touchy-feely type? Then read on to find out how you can send him into total sensory bliss.
1)He's visual, meaning he loves sexy sights
Not surprisingly, most guys get aroused primarily by what they're looking at, says Jay Arthur, master practitioner of NLP and author of Attracting Romance. Guys with a dominant sight sense also speak visually, as in "Can you picture that?" Arthur says.
ROCK HIS VISUAL WORLD
Go Ahead and Jiggle
You may feel self-conscious when your thighs wobble during a romp, but trust us, he's loving it. "Guys crave seeing some jiggle. Because it's so feminine, it makes him feel more masculine," explains Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of The Hot Guide to Safer Sex. "Plus the greater the jiggle, the more active and uninhibited the sex will seem."
Make Love in Front of a Mirror
Mirrors give him new angles on the action, so he'll love this passionate pose: Face a mirror with him behind you. Have him enter you, then lean your head against his shoulder and wrap one arm up around his neck. Your entwined bodies will look like a piece of art.
Lock Eyes for the Big O
Sometimes the sexiest images are the simplest. The next time you're about to have an orgasm, stare into his eyes and hold his gaze. Visual guys will feel superclose to you with this technique.
2) Lovers of music and long conversations, these lusty listeners also give themselves away with phrases like "That rings true to me" or "Keep your ear to the ground." The key to his heart is turning your lovemaking into a wall of hot sounds.
ROCK HIS WORLD WITH SOUNDS
Up Your Dirty-Talk Lingo
Sound hounds go gaga for dirty talk, so describe what you're doing ("I'm going to touch you here and here!") as well as what he's doing ("I love it when you kiss my neck"). Then, throw in some short and sexy adjectives, like hard, hot, wet.
Let Your Bodies Talk
Two bodies working in concert makes for loads of interesting noises — and auditory-type guys really dig the sound of sex. The sex position that'll deliver some serious erotic audio is one that traps the most moisture between your bodies: Try sitting facing each other, legs entwined, and have him rock rather than thrust into you.
Turn on Some Sexy Sounds
The right music will totally enhance the sound hound's experience. Anything by Barry White will do the trick or try the sweet tones of Sade to turn him on.
3)He's kinesthetic, meaning his big turn-on is touch
These guys most crave anything they can feel on every inch of their bodies, says Jay Arthur, author of Attracting Romance. When they talk (which isn't often), they will nonetheless wax on about "how they feel," he says.
ROCK HIS TOUCH-DRIVEN WORLD
Tease Him with Texture
Flip your hair onto his chest and drag it slowly down to his nether regions. If your hair is long enough, loop a lock of it around the base of his testicles (if your hair's too short, a silk scarf will work just as well). Then stretch gently away from his body. This stimulates his cremasteric muscle, which draws a guy's testicles toward his body as he approaches orgasm, increasing his pleasure, explains Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook..
Do Great Things with Your Hands
These guys prefer hands-on learning — which is why they'll love the Mirror Game. Copy each other's movements in bed: If you caress his chest, he caresses your breasts. If you kiss his neck, he kisses yours. This game provides the ultimate feedback loop, helping him understand exactly how you like to be touched.
Give Him Some Good Vibes
Your touch-craving guy will no doubt enjoy the feel of a vibrator just as much as you do, so amaze and delight him while you're busy doing the deed by placing your buzzing buddy on your lower abdomen and pressing down firmly. That way, he'll be able to feel the vibrations indirectly, a subtle yet sublime sensation.
4) Two Senses You Shouldn't Ignore
A small percentage of men (around 5 percent) fall into a fourth category: They get turned on primarily through their senses of smell and taste, says master practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Jay Arthur. Here's how to turn these guys on.
1. Light a sexy scent
The next three times you have sex, light one special scented candle. Soon, he'll begin to link this fragrance to one thing: you and him, horizontal. Want some attention pronto? Light that candle to get him in the mood for more of you.
2. Give him a flavored kiss
When you're alone with him, get out the Baileys Irish Cream, crème de menthe, and a raspberry-flavored liqueur. Then lean over and whisper, "Close your eyes and try to guess which one I've sipped." On your first kiss, lightly trace the tip of your tongue along his lips. If he can't pinpoint the flavor, delve deeper.
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