You might think you have sexy down to a science. But do know what real men actually want in a lover? Read on to find out
Enthusiasm
When it comes to s*x, you can get an “A” for effort. Guys want to be with someone who’s actually into s*x and not doing it as a favor or just going through the motions.
When it comes to s*x, you can get an “A” for effort. Guys want to be with someone who’s actually into s*x and not doing it as a favor or just going through the motions.
“There is nothing more seductive than an enthusiastic lover,” says
Lou Paget, certified s*x educator and author of The Big O: Orgasms: How
to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming. “That beats out the
perfect body or the perfect face anytime. A man wants feedback that a
woman is into doing things with him!”
New Tricks
Men want a lover who is willing to try new things from time to time. That doesn’t mean you have to go all 50 Shades of Grey. Just be open to ideas.
Men want a lover who is willing to try new things from time to time. That doesn’t mean you have to go all 50 Shades of Grey. Just be open to ideas.
“s*xual desire is like an appetite,” says Paget. “We all want to try
different flavors — otherwise we’d get bored eating at the same place
all the time. Men want someone who is willing to explore unique feelings
and new sensations.”
Worried that whatever you do is suddenly going to become part of your
nightly repertoire? Don’t think of it as a can of worms. Most likely
the occasional change-up is all he needs.
Praise
We normally think of women as the ones who need reassurance about their appearance, but men get insecure, too. A lover who will find something to compliment and worship about her partner will never lack affection from him.
We normally think of women as the ones who need reassurance about their appearance, but men get insecure, too. A lover who will find something to compliment and worship about her partner will never lack affection from him.
“Every man wants to know they have that special something that turns a
woman on,” says Paget. “It could be something that turns her head or
something like his intelligence or sense of humor that she finds
incredibly sexy.”
Bossiness
It’s not a cliché, ladies. A man wants a woman who will tell him what to do — at least in the bedroom. Most guys will be thankful for a little instruction, especially if it means they’ll succeed at pleasuring you.
It’s not a cliché, ladies. A man wants a woman who will tell him what to do — at least in the bedroom. Most guys will be thankful for a little instruction, especially if it means they’ll succeed at pleasuring you.
“A woman who can guide you with sounds or one word responses is
preferred as it takes away the guess work,” says Paget. “Just remember
to avoid acting like a s*xual traffic cop!”
Confidence
Men want someone who will leave the lights on and let him get a good look at her. Stop worrying about covering up any squishy parts.
Men want someone who will leave the lights on and let him get a good look at her. Stop worrying about covering up any squishy parts.
“Indirect lighting is Hollywood’s best friend and it can be yours as
well,” says Paget. “Need I repeat that men are visual creatures and they
want to see their partner? It’s a big part of their turn-on factor.”
Confidence is sexier than anything!
Love on the Brain
A woman who keeps s*x in the forefront of her thoughts knows how to inject it into life outside the bedroom — and that’s sexy. Try sexting him or be extra naughty and playful in public.
A woman who keeps s*x in the forefront of her thoughts knows how to inject it into life outside the bedroom — and that’s sexy. Try sexting him or be extra naughty and playful in public.
“Do it in a discreet way,” say Paget. “Let your partner know that
you’re thinking about s*x throughout the day. Remember, your brain is
your s*xual power source.”
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