Enthusiasm
When it comes to sex, you can get an 'A' for effort. Guys want to be with someone who’s actually into sex and not doing it as a favour or just going through the motions. 'There is nothing more seductive than an enthusiastic lover,' says Lou Paget, certified sex educator and author of The Big O: Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming. 'That beats out the perfect body or the perfect face anytime. A man wants feedback that a woman is into doing things with him!'
2 Men want a lover who is willing to try new things from time to time. That doesn’t mean you have to go all 50 Shades of Grey. Just be open to ideas. 'Sexual desire is like an appetite,' says Paget. 'We all want to try different flavours - otherwise we’d get bored eating at the same place all the time. Men want someone who is willing to explore unique feelings and new sensations.'
Worried that whatever you do is suddenly going to become part of your nightly repertoire? Don’t think of it as a can of worms. Most likely the occasional change-up is all he needs.
3 Praise
We normally think of women as the ones who need reassurance about their
appearance, but men get insecure, too. A lover who will find something
to compliment and worship about her partner will never lack affection
from him.
'Every man wants to know they have that special something that turns a
woman on,' says Paget. 'It could be something that turns her head or
something like his intelligence or sense of humour that she finds
incredibly sexy.'
4 Bossiness
It’s not a cliché, ladies. A man wants a woman who will tell him what to
do - at least in the bedroom. Most guys will be thankful for a little
instruction, especially if it means they’ll succeed at pleasuring you.
'A woman who can guide you with sounds or one word responses is
preferred as it takes away the guess work,' says Paget. 'Just remember
to avoid acting like a sexual traffic cop!'
5 Confidence
Men want someone who will leave the lights on and let him get a good
look at her. Stop worrying about covering up any squishy parts.
'Indirect lighting is Hollywood’s best friend and it can be yours as
well,' says Paget. 'Need I repeat that men are visual creatures and they
want to see their partner? It’s a big part of their turn-on factor.'
Confidence is sexier than anything!
6 Sex on the brain
A woman who keeps sex in the forefront of her thoughts knows how to
inject it into life outside the bedroom - and that’s sexy. Try sexting
him or be extra naughty and playful in public. 'Do it in a discreet
way,' say Paget. 'Let your partner know that you’re thinking about sex
throughout the day. Remember, your brain is your sexual power source.'
7 Flair for fantasy
A man craves someone who will listen to his fantasies - and tell him
hers. 'Many men are scared to share their fantasies as their partner may
react by saying, ‘You have got to be kidding, that’s sick,’' says
Paget.
'You don’t need to give him his exact fantasy but instead try
negotiating how you’d both like to feel during the fantasy. Create your
own scenario together.'
8 Initiative
Guys want someone who sometimes initiates sex but also lets him 'be the
man'. 'It’s in a man’s DNA to be the caretaker, which also translates
into the bedroom,' says Dr. Sadie Allison, America’s Pleasure Coach and
author of Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets for Better
Bucking,www.TickleKitty.com.
'So while most men love to be in charge, always being the initiator can
get old. It’s hot when a woman takes control and shows him that she
wants him. It’s actually every man’s fantasy to surrender for just a
little while!'
9 Dirty talk
Men love hearing a play-by-play of what’s happening during sex - or what you want to happen next.
'What men see, hear and feel are direct lines to the ‘other brain,’'
says Allison. 'Dirty talk is just another fun way to arouse your man. It
also turns them on psychologically because men are super attracted to
women who are sexually uninhibited.'
10
Accepting all of him
Swallowing his love juice may seem gross to you but to a guy it means that you accept all of him - so do it!
'Primordial programming says the come goes inside,' says Allison.
'Double his pleasure with the visual of oral sex and letting his man
juices melt inside of you.'
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